Mirror, Mirror - 8/23/19

I would like to spend this week's FYF to share a poem I have been reflecting on. While the origins of the poem continue to be misattributed, I feel the words, despite who penned them, continue to offer much wisdom. Some of you may have come across it before, but if not, here it is:

As I Begin to Love Myself

As I began to love myself, I understood how much it can offend somebody As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today, I call it RESPECT.

As I began to love myself, I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today, I call it MATURITY.

As I began to love myself, I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today, I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.

As I began to love myself, I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today, I call it SIMPLICITY.

As I began to love myself, I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first, I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today, I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.

As I began to love myself, I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today, I discovered that is MODESTY.

As I began to love myself, I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.

As I began to love myself, I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today, I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know that is LIFE!

This poem is attributed to have been written by Charlie Chaplin, but according to my research was actually an English translation of a Portuguese translation of an English-language book written by Kim and Alison McMillen.  It tells a story of transition, and through these transitions, fewer and fewer fucks are given. In this exchange, more and more focus is on the self and less on what is expected or what other people tell you what you should want in life. So often do we chase things that we think other people would like, so that they may like us in return?

It's a losing game, but one oh so attractive.

The more we focus on cultivating ourselves a little each day, the more we will find ourselves miles ahead of others years from now. 

Fuck yeah, it's Friday!

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